Fear can be useful - it keeps us safe when there is real physical danger, but it can also be very detrimental because it can steal our resourcefulness just when we need it most. How is your behaviour as a leader and manager impacting on the resourcefulness your people?
A metaphor for life
My wife Pam and I love skiing because it is a magnificent metaphor for life. For the first five years we spent every morning of our holiday in ski school with only the afternoons for playing and practicing what we learned. The skills required for skiing are like no other. You need to make totally counter intuitive movements that make it feel like you will be totally off-balance and fall and yet they make you safer. This means your mind is constantly screaming at you not to do the very things that will make you a better skier. There were a lot of falls in the early days and a lot of bruised egos too. But the anticipation of being free to ski on all types of slopes and the excitement of going downhill with the fresh crisp cold air in your face kept us going.
My wife Pam and I love skiing because it is a magnificent metaphor for life. For the first five years we spent every morning of our holiday in ski school with only the afternoons for playing and practicing what we learned. The skills required for skiing are like no other. You need to make totally counter intuitive movements that make it feel like you will be totally off-balance and fall and yet they make you safer. This means your mind is constantly screaming at you not to do the very things that will make you a better skier. There were a lot of falls in the early days and a lot of bruised egos too. But the anticipation of being free to ski on all types of slopes and the excitement of going downhill with the fresh crisp cold air in your face kept us going.
There
is an interesting paradox in skiing. You
need to be very conscious of how dangerous it is and have a healthy fear of
being injured or injuring someone else.
Every year many skiers are hurt and sadly some die. Given this fact you need to learn how to be
safe and only go at a speed that you can fully control and only go out in
conditions you are competent enough to manage.
However, if your fear becomes inhibiting and prevents you from stepping
out of your Comfort Zone you will never learn the skills you need to really
enjoy the exhilaration of elegantly navigating some of the most beautiful and
awe-inspiring landscapes on the planet.
On
the other hand if you are completely fearless and addicted to the adrenalin
rush of speed rather than the discipline of practicing key exercises and techniques,
you can quickly find yourself in a perilous situation that could end up with a
helicopter ride to the local hospital or worse.
The Learning Zone
One of the Ski Instructors who Pam and I still regularly work with showed me the illustration below (Fig.1) and explained to us that developing any new skill requires the ability to step out of your ‘Comfort Zone’ while remaining mindful and respectful of the ‘Fear Zone’. The Fear Zone can be a dangerous place and it sometimes keeps us stuck in our Comfort Zone. However, if we stray too far into it we could get out of our depth, lose control and be harmed.
One of the Ski Instructors who Pam and I still regularly work with showed me the illustration below (Fig.1) and explained to us that developing any new skill requires the ability to step out of your ‘Comfort Zone’ while remaining mindful and respectful of the ‘Fear Zone’. The Fear Zone can be a dangerous place and it sometimes keeps us stuck in our Comfort Zone. However, if we stray too far into it we could get out of our depth, lose control and be harmed.
There
is in fact another zone in between these two zones – the Learning Zone (Fig.2).
It is often initially an uncomfortable
place and requires courage, determination and discipline. It also requires a clear sense of
purpose: To reap the rewards of
developing the new skills. To succeed at
the next level. To do what all humans
are wired to do from birth – grow. However,
the more we go into the Learning Zone the bigger our Comfort Zone becomes.
Sameness and Difference
Every
year Pam and I go to Meribel in early January to start the year in the glorious
fresh mountain air and magnificent vista of the French Alps. Every year it is the same and yet very
different. The mountains and valleys are
the same, the accommodation is the same but while the pistes are all in the
same place with the same names, the conditions on them are radically different. This year we knew there was no snow below
2000m and very little above that. The
snow machines produced enough cover for the main pistes but it was very
hard-packed and icy. Many of the pistes
that we were used to playing on in previous years were just grassy slopes
strewn with stones.
We
had never skied on very thin hard-pack snow before. It was very fast and every movement was
accentuated. This massively reduced the
margin for error and required intense concentration and a totally focused
mind. When skiing there is a lot to take
in, you need keen attention on your body and how your skis are in contact with
the show while being mindful of all the other skiers who are weaving in and out
at a variety of speeds with a broad range of competence. So we were both thankful that we were already
more experienced skiers with lots of techniques and skills for a variety of
conditions.
Losing Competence
On
the fourth day of our trip we were skiing down from the top of Saulire on a
steep Red Piste which in previous years had been one of our favourites. However, this year it was very icy and more difficult
to traverse. When we came to the
steepest section Pam managed to take a leap of faith and trust her skills. She skidded across the ice and managed to maintain
a fluid posture and good balance as she made a very rapid 40-50 meter drop
through the icy patch to the snowy area just beyond it.
I
was still above the ice (or so I thought) and made a tentative manoeuvre but
started skidding across the Piste. My
speed was increasing very rapidly and I didn’t feel any grip with my skis. Within milliseconds I could feel a surge of
Adrenalin and my body tensed up, my muscles froze and my mind went blank. I knew what was happening but was helpless to
do anything about it – Amygdala Hijack! I
felt my heart racing my breathing faltering and a sick sensation in my
stomach. My mind gave me an intense
rapid-fire video of all the falls I’d ever had, all the sprains and pulled
tendons, all the pain! It didn’t look
good and felt terrible. I was relieved
that there was no one else around because I was in no state to change
direction. It was as if all my skills
and all the techniques I’d learned vanished.
I felt totally incompetent!
Fortunately
I came to a stop on an area of snow just off the edge of the Piste and caught
my breath. It was weird to feel that I no
longer had the skill or flexibility to turn and maintain the right posture and
balance on a steep slope. It was very
debilitating because my mind was telling me that I would lose control and be a
serious danger to myself and others.
After
taking a few deep breaths I made a point of labelling the sensations in my body
and recognising what the irrational fear was doing to my thinking. I took a moment to observe the magnificent
view, feel the cold air flowing deep into my lungs and adjusted my posture to a
more relaxed stance. I sensed the
pressure of my shins against the front of my boots and pushed down with my big
toe on the downhill ski so I could feel the edge of my skis biting into the
surface of the Piste. It felt good. It felt like regaining control. Within about a minute I could feel the adrenalin
subside and my thinking calm down so I was remembering how to do fast turns by leaning
forward and curving my body into a crescent shape to keep my centre of gravity
over my skis while keeping my upper chest facing straight downhill and ensuring
I had both skis edged against the Piste at a keen angle. I also took a few moments to watch as more
experienced skiers gracefully side-slipped over the ice patch, confident that
they would regain full control as they reached the snow below it which they
inevitably did – as Pam had done.
Once
I regained a sense of calm resourcefulness I was able to face my fear and skid
over and past the ice. It was amazing
how that increased my confidence over the next couple of days. When I could see icy patches ahead I just
made sure there was plenty of space to shoot over them and remain fluid and
flexible. We also both found some nice
pistes to practice a number of exercises that would help us on the steeper and
icier slopes. Pam is very good at
reminding me to have the discipline to step into the Learning Zone and practice
in good conditions so we have the skills to deal with more challenging
situations when they arise . . . because they will!
It’s just our brain
That
evening we had a great chat over a glass of Vin Chaud about how my moment of
fear-induced incompetence was a great example of how unhelpful fear can
be. My Amygdala – that part of the brain
that alerts us to danger – went into overdrive.
It hijacked my thinking, filling me with an overwhelming amount of neurochemicals
like Adrenalin which shut down my Prefrontal Cortex so I couldn’t put the
situation into perspective. All my emotions were stirred up, so instead of
remembering all my skills and reminding myself that I had coped with similar
situations before, my brain was remembering all the falls I’d ever had,
especially the most painful ones! These
memories then created and projected the possibility of a very serious,
potentially life threatening, accident occurring at any moment. This instigated a positive feedback loop of
even more adrenalin being produced, which further affected my body; my heart
started racing and muscles tensed up and froze.
It all made me feel as if I couldn’t move let alone have the flexibility
to make agile turns while maintaining a fluid, flexible and balanced posture. It was only by being mindful and observing the
direct sensations in my body that I managed to regain some influence over my
thinking, normalise it and regain my confidence enough to descend.
We
also chatted about how this sense of debilitating overwhelm can affect us in
our work and how being more mindful can help calm down an excited Amygdala.
A duty to help
Our
conversation reminded me that managers and leaders have a duty to help their
people manage their stress levels. There
is constant pressure at work and sometimes a little thing can be the trigger
that creates an Amygdala Hijack, stripping your people of their resourcefulness
and causing silly or avoidable mistakes.
Managers
and leaders also need to be mindful of their own thinking and ensure that they
are willing and able to step out of their own Comfort Zones into the discomfort
of the Learning Zone while being mindful of the Fear Zone.
Healthy
fear has an important role to play in keeping us safe. Unhealthy fear can strip us of our
competence. How are you managing you
people with this in mind?
What
are the dangers to your business or organisation that you need have a healthy
fear of and to be mindful of? Are your
people clear about these dangers? What is
their level of accountability – are they clear about the consequences of their
actions or lack of action? Do they need
to be reminded so they are alert to the danger of not doing what is required?
In
what ways are unhealthy fears preventing your people from utilising their
current skills and creativity? What may
be preventing them from learning from mistakes or near-misses? Perhaps there is a blame culture or there may
be a lack of constructive feedback, direction, vision or purpose. This allows people to make up their own
(often misguided) stories or gossip about what is happening or not
happening. Perhaps ideas and suggestions
are not being actioned by management so people believe it’s not worth
contributing. Perhaps new managers are
not being trained properly and workloads are not being managed fairly so people
lose trust in management.
A
combination of the above often creates a subtle but chronic state of fear that
no one mentions because it is not just one thing, it is the complex combination
of things which are difficult to articulate.
The end result is that your peoples’ brains are producing an unhealthy
level of Adrenalin making them pessimistic and far less resourceful than they
could be.
As
the New Year gets underway, how can you consistently step into the Learning Zone? What are the behaviours and skills you need
to practice to ensure that you are effectively leading, managing and developing
your people to fully access their creativity resourcefulness?
If
you would like to start the year with a more mindful approach you can download
our complimentary Mindfulness Programme with audio relaxation exercises to
help you have a greater awareness of what is really going on, rather than
getting stuck in what you are making it mean.
If
you have any questions about the above please contact Gloria at admin@InspiredWorking.com and request a call with
me.
With best regards
David Klaasen
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