Leadership is all
about awareness and focus, and the latest research into neuroscience is showing
us that the key to success is the skill of thinking about our thinking. Most of the time we are just doing the
thinking rather than taking a step back and observing it for what it is: a
myriad of electrical impulses making connections between a vast number of
mental maps.
Sometimes these
connections are flashes of insight that give us an excellent answer to a
difficult question or brilliant solution to an awkward problem. But when we are tired, or over-stressed our
brain makes ‘accidental’ connections between unrelated mental maps and we think
they are real.
Making up stories
This is where it gets
tricky because while we can usually tell when we are tired, we are rarely aware
of when we are getting over-stressed. It
tends to creep up on us, and without focussed awareness on the sensations in
our body it is easy to get so wrapped up in the situation that we don’t even
realise that we are making accidental connections.
When you think about
it, most misunderstandings at work are due to people making accidental
connections when they are stressed. For
example, we think that our most important client is not getting back to us with
an important decision because they are looking for another supplier to replace
us (when they are probably just busy).
We think staff or colleagues are neglecting us on purpose because they
haven’t responded to our email. Within
seconds we can make up a whole story about what is going on, when in fact what
we need to do is become more aware about the sensations in our body, and what
those sensations are doing to our thinking.
Defensiveness is natural
It is not unusual for
concern, anxiety or worry to create sensations that trigger previous memories
of when those feelings were experienced in the past, and before we know it our
brain is mixing old memories with assumptions about the present and reality
goes out the window. Reading and writing
emails in this state can create serious misunderstandings!
Defensiveness is just a natural reaction to uncomfortable sensations triggered by neurochemicals when there is a perceived threat. This often happens when giving or receiving feedback and when we challenge someone’s ideas or suggestions, or someone challenges ours. It’s just our brain at work and part of being human.
Wise leaders and
managers are recognising that the skill of thinking about our thinking is
becoming one of the most important skills for the 21st Century.
Developing the skill
Developing the skill
of thinking about your thinking is actually not difficult. Remembering to do it is! You can start by
learning to be aware of your breathing – is it deep and even or rapid and
shallow? Are you breathing at a steady
pace or holding breaths while thinking? Slow
and deep breathing has a natural calming effect on the body, helping to
metabolise any of the neurochemicals that can put us in a tizzy. As few as 3 calm deep breaths can help us
think more clearly. It also creates a
pause for us to focus on the sensations in our body and ask what they are
triggering. So rather than being ‘in
your thinking’ you can begin to ‘think about your thinking’.
This is not a new
concept, ancient wisdom has been teaching it for thousands of years! But it was often shrouded in mysticism. Back in the 1970’s when I first learned about
it, it was still seen as a ‘Hippy Thing’.
However, in the early 1990’s the late Dr. Steven Covey mentioned it in
his best seller, ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People’, he called it
‘Creating a Gap’. More recently the Neuroscientists
have become fascinated with the power of thinking. They are discovering what the mystics have
always said; our thoughts and even the way we use our posture, generate
neurochemicals that can either enhance our wellbeing and the quality of our
thinking, or significantly reduce it.
Only last month it featured on the cover of TIME Magazine with a major
article about how this critical skill is finally becoming mainstream.
Find your Inner Director
The researcher and
author Dr. David Rock refers to it as discovering your ‘Inner Director’. I like this term because it fits well with
business and my clients can accept it more easily than the concept of
meditation. In his book ‘Quiet
Leadership’ Rock talks about the need to be more mindful and to develop the
skill of observing your own thinking so you can help others observe theirs.
Over the coming month
you may want to consider practicing a more mindful approach to your thinking by
noticing your breathing and the sensations in your body. Notice how you are breathing when you are
feeling good and when you are feeling anxious, frustrated or irritated. Play with changing your breathing patterns
and notice what happens.
If you are interested
in exploring more about mindfulness you may want to join over 300 Directors,
Managers and Consultants who have downloaded the Inspired Working Mindfulness
programme. Just click here for
more.
And if you have any
questions or comments, or you are interested in exploring our online resources or in-house Leadership
and Management development programmes don’t hesitate to contact me.
Remember
. . . Stay Curious!
With best regards
David
Klaasen
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